The latest episode of 8days chat show DNA features former Mediacorp actress and host Evelyn Tan, 51, alongside her daughter Kristen Lin, 21, as they join host Rebecca Lim to talk about homeschooling, Lin's showbiz aspirations and their close mother-daughter bond.
Lin is the eldest of Tan and Mediacorp actor Darren Lim’s four children. She has three younger brothers, Jairus, Way, and Elliot, who turn 18, 16, and 12, respectively, this year.
While Lin was well-behaved growing up, she admitted that she went through a rebellious phase.
“There was definitely a phase where I wasn’t the most pleasant child to deal with,” said Lin, before chuckling and passing the baton to her mother to share more about that period of their lives.
“I think for a first-time parent of a child who’s growing up, it was very tough for us. She was an ideal model child. We would give them iPad time once a week for just half an hour, and at half an hour, when the timer was up, she would [voluntarily] hand the iPad back. She would not argue, there would be no complaints from her,” recalled Tan.
So, when Lin entered her more defiant years – or as Tan put it, “wanted to go autonomous” – both she and Darren Lim were completely caught off guard.
“It was a real 180-degree flip. There were times when she was really testy – she would go under the radar, above the radar, you know, everywhere else but in front of us,” added Tan.
When prompted by the host to share a specific example, Lin didn’t hesitate: “Definitely curfew.”
“When we’re teenagers and when we’re hanging out with our friends, it always extends way longer than we think it will. Sometimes, I don’t have the habit of texting my parents to let them know, like ‘Hey I’m still safe’, or at least give them an update of my whereabouts,” she said.
Tan shared that she and Darren Lim initially set an 11pm curfew, but eventually relaxed it, asking only that Lin keep them updated – which, she admitted, “she didn’t even do it”.
“That was when it really got to us. It came to a point where we told her ‘If you don’t want to listen to us, maybe just get out of the house’,” said Tan with a laugh.
Lin then cheekily admitted that she didn’t want to, especially “not in this economy”.
Tan added that she was surprised Lin didn’t take up the offer, particularly since Darren Lim had even offered to pay for her to rent her own place.
Lin was just 17 at the time, but instead of choosing independence, she decided to stay at home.
Looking back, Tan said she was grateful Lin has since reflected on those years and opened up about the stress she may have caused her parents by not keeping them informed.
Rebecca Lim chimed in: “I only had this conversation with my mum after I became a mother. It was only after I became a mother that I became more patient with her, and a lot more understanding.”
Tan then shared: “My second one (Jairus) will tell you, sometimes, I’ll tell him ‘you’re giving me a lot of s*** you know, to have to deal with in life’.”
With a resigned laugh, she added that his usual response would be: “But mum, you’re my mum.”
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Lin is the eldest of Tan and Mediacorp actor Darren Lim’s four children. She has three younger brothers, Jairus, Way, and Elliot, who turn 18, 16, and 12, respectively, this year.
While Lin was well-behaved growing up, she admitted that she went through a rebellious phase.
“There was definitely a phase where I wasn’t the most pleasant child to deal with,” said Lin, before chuckling and passing the baton to her mother to share more about that period of their lives.
“I think for a first-time parent of a child who’s growing up, it was very tough for us. She was an ideal model child. We would give them iPad time once a week for just half an hour, and at half an hour, when the timer was up, she would [voluntarily] hand the iPad back. She would not argue, there would be no complaints from her,” recalled Tan.
So, when Lin entered her more defiant years – or as Tan put it, “wanted to go autonomous” – both she and Darren Lim were completely caught off guard.
“It was a real 180-degree flip. There were times when she was really testy – she would go under the radar, above the radar, you know, everywhere else but in front of us,” added Tan.
When prompted by the host to share a specific example, Lin didn’t hesitate: “Definitely curfew.”
“When we’re teenagers and when we’re hanging out with our friends, it always extends way longer than we think it will. Sometimes, I don’t have the habit of texting my parents to let them know, like ‘Hey I’m still safe’, or at least give them an update of my whereabouts,” she said.
Tan shared that she and Darren Lim initially set an 11pm curfew, but eventually relaxed it, asking only that Lin keep them updated – which, she admitted, “she didn’t even do it”.
“That was when it really got to us. It came to a point where we told her ‘If you don’t want to listen to us, maybe just get out of the house’,” said Tan with a laugh.
Lin then cheekily admitted that she didn’t want to, especially “not in this economy”.
Tan added that she was surprised Lin didn’t take up the offer, particularly since Darren Lim had even offered to pay for her to rent her own place.
Lin was just 17 at the time, but instead of choosing independence, she decided to stay at home.
Looking back, Tan said she was grateful Lin has since reflected on those years and opened up about the stress she may have caused her parents by not keeping them informed.
Rebecca Lim chimed in: “I only had this conversation with my mum after I became a mother. It was only after I became a mother that I became more patient with her, and a lot more understanding.”
Tan then shared: “My second one (Jairus) will tell you, sometimes, I’ll tell him ‘you’re giving me a lot of s*** you know, to have to deal with in life’.”
With a resigned laugh, she added that his usual response would be: “But mum, you’re my mum.”
This story was originally published in 8Days.
For more 8Days stories, visit https://www.8days.sg/
Continue reading...